The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying:- Book Review
The book was written by Bronne Ware. She was born on 15 February 1967 in Australia. She is a writer, song writer, singer and motivational speaker. She has written three books: The top five regrets of the dying, the year of change and bloom.
After searching for a proper job, Bronne Ware got the job as a palliative nurse in a nursing home, where dying people are admitted to be cared. When she began her work, she decided to do research to make her job more interesting. She started asking people about their dying regrets, so she found people’s regrets were very similar to each other and everybody was sharing some particular regrets. After her palliative work, as being interested in writing, she wrote a blog on “the top five regrets of the dying”. The blog got over 8 million views, so then she wrote a book on it to make it in detail. She sent the book to 25 publications but it was rejected. She did an independent release of the book, and the book became an international best-selling book. The book is based on Bronne Ware’s life story but mainly it talks about the five regrets of dying.
The first regret was “I wish I’d had the courage to live the life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”. This was the most common mistake of the five regrets. Bronne Ware discussed with a dying woman named Grace who had spent her whole life according to her husband’s rules. When she got her freedom in her eighties age, she became so happy but soon after, she became seriously ill and was admitted to a nursing home. On her death bed, she was regretting that she didn’t live a life true to herself. So, don’t think what others think, don’t think what others say and don’t think how others react. Do what you like, leave others.
The second regret was “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard”. When Bronne Ware was talking to John, who was admitted there for being cared for. He was regretting that his wife Margaret always told him to retire himself, but he didn’t, in the desire of earning more and more. They both loved travelling and Margaret always told him to retire, so they could go travelling and spend more time together. Until Margaret died John didn’t retire. In the bed of dying he was apologizing that he spent his whole life earning and working and then he was having money but he couldn’t do anything with it.
The third regret was “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings”. Jozsef, who was 95 years age was very ill and about to die. His family tried to hide the truth from him but one-day Bronne told him the truth that he is going to die. When he knew about the truth, he said I have worked all my life to give my family happiness but my family don’t know how much I love them, because I couldn’t express my feelings to them. Now this doesn’t mean to only express your feelings to your girlfriend but to your parents and siblings etc. that how much you love or like them.
The fourth regret is “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends”. There was a lady named Doris who said to Bronne That I’m not dying of illness though I’m dying of loneliness, I’m dying for a hug. Friends are very precious in the world, and without them life is nothing. So, try to spare time for your friends if they aren’t nearby then call them through the cell phone or text them but don’t lose them.
And finally, last but not least. The fifth regret was “I wish I had let myself to be happier”. Rosemary, a lady who became state champion at her young age and a very brave girl. She was married at a very young age and she was abused mentally by her husband. She left her husband. She suffered a very hard life that took her happiness all away. In her eighties when she was dying, she was cared for by Bronne Ware. Rosemary found Bronne always happy and smiling and happy, so she asked her. Bronne Ware replied, “happiness is a choice, whether you choose to be happy or not”. So then she realized that she could be happier in her hard situations but she didn’t let herself be happy. So, in any problem try to be happy and solve that.
However, This book isn’t written in unique grammatical structures or words, despite that this is a unique book. I can say that this is the best book I have ever read because it talks about the great and unique things in life. Everybody should read this book at least once because it will give you the best lessons about life.